Lover or Friend? Ambiguous friends and other categories of relationships

January 09, 2016

Lover or Friend? Ambiguous friends and other categories of relationships

Ambiguous friends and other categories of relationships

We fail in our quest for love because we deceive ourselves and others about the true nature of our relationships. We tell ourselves that a zebra is a donkey when It obviously has black and white stripes. The worst thing we do today is tell people that lovers are just our friends. We do this to negate the power or potential power that the other individual has in our lives. We also do it to deceive others, not everybody is a friend. Let's look at the definition of a friend as well as other categories of relationships. I will be defining from the MAN'S perspective since I am a man. Women you can use this as a guide to help define your relationships as well.

Friends

1: a person you know well and regard with affection and trust; "he was my best friend at the university" no sexual contact, no deep intimate contact such as heavy petting, kissing on the lips deep strong embraces that could lead to sex etc.

Lovers-

Special friend with benefits. Not a real strong emotional attachment do to it being infrequent. You both have separate lives , adulterous affairs usually fall into this category. however those affairs could lead to stronger bonds

Concubines

Similar to a lover but sexual contact is more frequent and regular. Lovers kind of drift in and out, no real emotional bond. A concubine creates in you a loving bond but not for marriage. But you still want her around and you may even have children with her. A mistress would be in this category. Hagar was Abraham's concubine who gave birth to Ishmael.

Prostitutes

- Self explanatory, you need sex , she offers it for a fee, you pay the fee, and get sex. No type of bond develops unless there is a change in the nature of the relationship.

Girlfriends

- Usually exclusive the one you are having sex with and you are considering marrying. Unlike a concubine She has the potential to be a wife .

Wife- Noun:

1: a married woman; a man's partner in marriage

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This is the woman or women you bequeath your kingdom to, Your vision of life. She is or should be your help meet. Your Queen.

Dear friends

- Friends you want to make lovers, girlfriends or maybe a wife . You secretly admire her. You want to take her to the next level, but it somehow stayed stuck in the " Friend Zone " .

Ex' s

-former lovers or girlfriends or wives. Some ex's become concubines , some become friends, some become adversaries,

All these categories of women have one thing in common. They all have or had some sort of spiritual and/or physical intimacy with you. You and her made a connection of some sort and she had the potential to affect your life to some degree or another. E.g . A prostitute could give you an STD, a concubine could get pregnant with your child, a friend could become a lover or an adversary.

This is why it is important to DEFINE OUR RELATIONSHIPS PROPERLY. If we are going to have more love in our lives and create that energy in our atmosphere , there must be definition, not ambiguity. Because each relationship generates its own unique energy into the atmosphere.

K.L. STUBBLEFIELD IS THE AUTHOR OF THE BOOK "AMERICAN REPROBATE: GOD'S CURSE AND RESTORATION OF THE AFRICAN AMERICAN.