Why Men Aren’t Jealous of Prostitutes: Understanding the Covenant vs. the Transactional
Why Men Aren’t Jealous of Prostitutes: Understanding the Covenant vs. the Transactional
In the ongoing war between the sexes in Western society, one question is rarely—if ever—asked: Why aren’t men jealous of prostitutes? A man can sleep with a harlot, pay her for her time, and walk away with zero emotional investment. She can be with another man 20 minutes later, and he won’t lose sleep. But that same man may spiral into rage or grief if he finds out his wife has been unfaithful. He may leave her. He may even kill. So, what’s the difference?
The Answer: Covenant vs. Transaction
The difference is simple but profound: a covenant. A man doesn’t make a covenant with a prostitute. He enters into a transaction. With a girlfriend, a fiancée, and certainly a wife—he establishes a covenant. An agreement. A spiritual and emotional bond, even if it's unspoken. This covenant is rooted in trust, fidelity, legacy, and responsibility. A violation of that bond is not just infidelity—it’s treason.
Meanwhile, a prostitute—or what today’s culture calls a "304," THOT, or sex worker—is part of a business exchange. There's no betrayal, because there was never loyalty. There’s no heartbreak, because there was never commitment.
The Crisis of Modern Masculinity & Marriage
Men Aren’t Wired Like Women
Contrary to what pop culture tells us, men do not love like women love. Real men—biblically speaking—don’t look for "soulmates"; they look for help-meets, partners in their divine assignment. This design is written in Genesis: “Be fruitful and multiply, fill the earth and subdue it.” The goal wasn’t romantic fulfillment. It was dominion, legacy, and the building of strong tribes.
But today’s Western culture undermines this goal. Instead of facilitating family-building, it limits it—legally, morally, and economically.
How the West Kills Healthy Heterosexuality
Anti-Polygamy Family Law
Modern marriage law in the West is modeled after the Roman Catholic Church's monogamous ideal. Polygyny—God's tribal method for growing nations—is criminalized. Men are punished for having multiple wives but praised for meaningless sexual conquests. The result? Weak, fragmented families and dying legacy lines.
Feminism’s War on Divine Order
Feminism reversed God’s household hierarchy. In traditional African and Israelite culture, the man was the high priest of the home. Feminism rebranded this structure as oppression. It demanded “equality” that turned the home into a battlefield—two drivers, one steering wheel. Today, the man is third or fourth in his own house—after the wife, the kids, and even the family court.
Flattery of Women, Shaming of Men
Women are told they are the prize simply for existing. Their sexuality is glorified. Meanwhile, men are told they are disposable unless they’re actively chasing women—and even then, they’re mocked if they fail. Real masculinity is twisted into toxic caricature.
Sexual Overexposure
From music videos to social media to OnlyFans, sex is everywhere. It’s free, accessible, and increasingly void of responsibility. The culture says: “Why build a family when you can just hook up?”
Loss of Land, Tribe, and Purpose
We moved from tribal, land-based economies to industrial, technocratic ones. We traded family farms for factory jobs, then factory jobs for digital screens. In this new system, there is no room for tribal growth, legacy, or spiritual authority. Just consumers and taxpayers.
Why Men Really Cheat
It’s easy to say men are “dogs” or “weak”—but the reality is deeper. Here are the real reasons men stray:
Novelty: Even a great woman can’t eliminate a man’s desire for newness. Like test-driving a new car, it’s about the thrill—not the commitment.
No Responsibility: Welfare systems and sexual liberation have disconnected sex from marriage. There’s no incentive for men to commit when everything is available with no cost.
Lack of Purpose: A man without divine direction will fill the void with pleasure. The idle man becomes Satan’s playground.
Loneliness: Being physically near someone but emotionally distant creates a hunger for intimacy elsewhere.
Insecurity: If a man doubts his own value, he may seek constant validation through conquest.
Easy Access: In today’s world, sex is a swipe or a DM away. If he has “game,” he’s always being hunted—just like Eve was seduced by the serpent.
Lust: Plain and simple. One of the seven deadly sins.
Final Thoughts: Covenant Over Culture
The root problem isn’t male desire—it’s cultural dysfunction. When society removes God from the center, removes purpose from man, and removes honor from women, what’s left is chaos. Transactions replace covenants. Pleasure replaces purpose. Power replaces partnership.
The West has built a culture where healthy heterosexuality is mocked, marriage is trivialized, and men and women are at war. The only way back is up—back to the divine design. The only way forward is with spiritual truth, not political correctness.
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Why Men Aren’t Jealous of Prostitutes: Covenant vs. Transaction in a Broken Culture
THE COVENANT VS. THE TRANSACTION
“The man who commits adultery lacks sense; he who does it destroys himself.” — Proverbs 6:32
“Do you not know that he who joins himself to a prostitute becomes one body with her?” — 1 Corinthians 6:16
In Scripture, sexual sin is more than just physical—it’s spiritual. But there’s a difference between a man joining himself to a prostitute (transactional) and violating a covenant with his wife (relational betrayal). The covenant carries expectations, loyalty, inheritance, and shared purpose. That’s why betrayal in marriage hurts deeper.
Modern Example: Look at the scandals of public figures—actors, athletes, pastors. They often recover from sleeping with random women, but cheating on a wife or long-term partner? That wrecks reputations and legacies.
GOD’S DESIGN: TRIBE, FRUITFULNESS, AND LEGACY
“Be fruitful and multiply, and fill the earth and subdue it.” — Genesis 1:28
“He who finds a wife finds a good thing and obtains favor from the Lord.” — Proverbs 18:22
“You shall not take many wives, lest your heart turn away…” — Deuteronomy 17:17 (a warning to kings, not the common man)
The original intent was family expansion and dominion. Legacy. Tribe. Fruitfulness. Modern laws restrict men to one wife—cutting off the ability to multiply wealth, spiritual influence, and generational power.
Modern Example: Many high-value men throughout history had multiple wives or concubines—Abraham, Jacob, David, Solomon. Even now, billionaires often have children across multiple households. The tribal instinct hasn’t died—it’s just hidden behind Western legality.
CULTURAL WEAPONS AGAINST BIBLICAL ORDER
1. Family Law & Religious Control
“By their traditions, they make void the Word of God.” — Mark 7:13
“They tie up heavy burdens… but they themselves are not willing to lift a finger.” — Matthew 23:4
Modern marriage law doesn’t reflect biblical marriage—it reflects church tradition. Bigamy laws, no-fault divorce, alimony—these were born of Roman law, not Hebrew covenant. Western Christianity has often aligned with state control more than divine order.
2. Feminism & Rebellion Against Spiritual Authority
“Wives, submit yourselves to your own husbands as you do to the Lord.” — Ephesians 5:22
“For the husband is the head of the wife as Christ is the head of the church.” — Ephesians 5:23
Biblical submission is not about oppression—it’s about order. But feminism rejected divine order in favor of “equality.” In doing so, it destroyed unity in the home. Today, women are taught they don’t need a man, while men are told they must submit to a woman or risk being labeled toxic.
Modern Example: Look at daytime talk shows, commercials, sitcoms—the father is often portrayed as the bumbling idiot while the mother is the wise authority figure. That’s not equality; it’s role reversal.
3. Hyper-Sexual Culture & Cheap Access
“Do not conform to the pattern of this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind.” — Romans 12:2
“They are full of adultery, insatiable for sin.” — 2 Peter 2:14
Music, movies, social media, and porn have created a sex-saturated society. Young men are addicted to dopamine and have never known what it means to pursue purpose before pleasure.
Modern Example: OnlyFans has created millionaires off the backs of desperate male attention. TikTok is full of soft-core thirst traps. Men are distracted, spiritually weak, and emotionally empty.
WHY MEN REALLY CHEAT — THROUGH A BIBLICAL LENS
1. Novelty (Ecclesiastes 1:8): “The eye is not satisfied with seeing, nor the ear filled with hearing.”
Humans crave newness—but that craving must be brought under spiritual discipline.
2. No Responsibility (Galatians 6:7): “Do not be deceived: God is not mocked, for whatever one sows, that will he also reap.”
Modern systems removed consequences, but God’s justice is still intact.
3. Lack of Purpose (Jeremiah 29:11): “I know the plans I have for you, declares the Lord...”
When men lose sight of God’s calling, they wander into carnal indulgence.
4. Loneliness (Genesis 2:18): “It is not good for man to be alone...”
God designed man for companionship—but culture replaced covenant with casual sex.
5. Insecurity (2 Timothy 1:7): “God has not given us a spirit of fear, but of power, love, and a sound mind.”
Insecure men chase sex to validate worth, but it only deepens the void.
6. Easy Access (Proverbs 5:3–4): “For the lips of a forbidden woman drip honey... but in the end she is bitter as wormwood.”
Just because she’s available doesn’t mean she’s good for you.
7. Lust (James 1:14–15): “Each person is tempted when he is lured and enticed by his own desire.”
Lust, unchecked, grows into sin. And sin, fully grown, brings death.
CONCLUSION: RETURN TO THE COVENANT
The enemy has created a world where covenants are mocked and transactions are celebrated. But men weren’t made for one-night stands—they were made to build kingdoms. Real masculinity is found not in how many women a man can sleep with, but in how well he can lead, protect, and leave a legacy.
“As for me and my house, we will serve the Lord.” — Joshua 24:15
KELVIN L. STUBBLEFIELD IS A GRADUATE OF Middle Tennessee State University IN 1983.
HE IS THE AUTHOR OF “AMERICAN REPROBATE: GOD'S CURSE AND RESTORATION OF THE AFRICAN AMERICAN”. THAT WAS PUBLISHED IN 2012.
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